Monday, 19 May 2014

Remembering Dad

Carol Fruin Keith Stedman
8 August 1916 - 19 May 1954

In memory of a husband and father, soldier and poet, thinker and teacher.



Slowly the passing years went their way into eternity.
Slowly dreams we'd fashioned in the spring of life
bloomed into reality.
Oh so slowly, like the miles of god
and yet surely years must pass.
Mere man can never halt their march.
In silent majesty one by one they drift
into the empty silence of infinity, but our dreams,
they are surely marching to their own fulfilment.
Slowly in Gods good time,
we must be fashioned by the fire of pain.
Lest such dreams prove too divine for mortal hearts.
In the dark of deepest sorrow we must see
the light of something mystic beyond mans ken,
lest mortal eyes should waiver blind
at the light of dreams fulfilment.

One of the many poems he wrote in 1941. 


In the cosmic scheme of things thirty seven years is not a long time. Yet there are some who will experience more in that thirty seven years than most do in a lifetime.

Carol was born to an English engineer father and proud Irish mother. They were new land farmers at Tarin Rock, 280 kilometres South East of Perth.

He was the youngest, sister Melva the eldest then brother. "Jim" (Lawrence David ).

Primary school was completed at nearby Kukerin, this was followed by high school in Albany, 170 kilometres away.

Over the following eight years Carol was to work in several positions in the south western region of the state.

In April 1941 he enlisted in the Army.

While on leave on a river cruise down the Swan he met the girl who would become his wife. It was love at first sight over the next six months he wrote her a series of poems, two of which are featured here

He saw service in the Middle East in the 2/28 Battalion A.I.F.. During a major campaign in 1942 he was seriously wounded. The injuries brought to a close his military service.

Before discharge he married his "sweetheart”, this was June of 1943. Their first child was born a month prior to Victory in Europe, in April of 1945 Over the next seven years the family grew to four children.

As a civilian again his career followed several paths from farming to finally working in Perth at the electoral office.

Christmas 1953 was great family gathering that included grandparents and talk of the future. As with such occasions the obligatory family photo was taken. It was to be the last "family" photograph.

The legacy to his family are the minds that were stimulated to see and think beyond the immediate and search for truth in the infinite. The young family learned from stimulating and challenging games and sharing the majesty of the night sky, filled with stars galaxies and constellations.

Sixty years on since his passing his descendants still farm some in the hometown of his wife, some in Albany and some followed his footsteps into the city. Some have had their own adventures around the world before returning home to begin new generations.

The legacy continues as succeeding generations search for their origins and realise that in their ancestry is a man who was a part of one of the greatest world shaping events of the twentieth century, the second World War.


A man who left a lasting influence on the thinking and compassionate understanding of others and that the ability to inspire others can be done despite physical, and emotional challenges.

December 1953 age 37

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